Know your Plan

Putting yourself out there.  It’s hard, you will be judged, you will fail and you will more often than not end up right at the beginning again.  Before you can take that step forward, you have to reevaluate the situation.  Are you ready for what you will find and will you be strong enough to deal with being let down.

People are mean, they don’t like seeing people do better than them, they don’t like competition and they don’t want to be sidelined.  In all kinds of relationships you will find those people, it’s a matter of knowing the quality rather than having the quantity.  If you think of any new venture you pursue, there is always that part of “getting to know an individual”.  Its fun, exciting and then you find the roadblocks, they either make you stumble and fall or you simply turn around and walk away.

In today’s society it is rather hard to find quality.  There are so many lonely souls who want to find love but we keep looking in the wrong places and yet all the wrong places are where we are at too.  Take for instance, dating sites, I’ve tried a very popular one – it should rather be called “onenighter” because that is all you are going to get, I think I’ve only heard of one successful relationship come from there.  There are so many and yet the quality is limited to handicapped or disabled, dropped dead gorgeously gay or just plain nasty.  Now I am vein, yes I wont hide that fact but there needs to be substance, I almost feel the pretty boy are the worst picks, I have never met a quality pretty boy.  That aside, you then have the likes of social media and networking, to a degree that could work or you could just look like a stalker.  Bars and Night Clubs have never really produced anything to write home.

So you are basically left with the likes of your friends and family who does not always understand when you say there is a specific profile you are looking for and they just hand out the single guys like lucky packets, we all do, we all have that one friend we so badly just want to have a good girl snag him up and he just doesn’t get the girl.  It is a sad reality but it’s a reality. 

Morals and values are non-existent, we all want the model on the front page and cry our hearts out when they drop us like a hot potato the moment they are done with you.  You almost feel like asking yourself, where have all the good men gone.   While driving home I was listening to a song which is rather controversial but in a way rings true – Garbage – Crush, the sound track for Romeo and Juliet, the words are as follows:

“I will pray for you, I will pray for you, I will sell my soul for something pure and true, someone like you”

When last did you actually sit down and put what you want into the universe?  When last did you ask for something rather than just taking what you can get?  Is asking for someone to be good looking, well educated, has substance, well established, looks after themselves, accepts a person’s reality, well mannered, big hearted, respects morals and values too much to ask?  No and that’s why it is good to be picky and set in your ways of what you want, we all deserve our happily ever after…. How we get it is the mission, the crutch, the “do not pass go”. 

It would help if there was a manual to this whole life thing but in a way it is nice and exciting to wake up every day not really knowing what awaits and just accepting the unknown, being grateful for life’s mysteries.  It’s a joy ride, keep enjoying it to the fullest….